The one thing that I loved about high school was having a wide variety of friends. I loved how loved I felt by each and every one of my friends. I never once truly felt like I wasn’t good enough for anyone. I know the whole high school stereotype of fitting in with a certain crowd or click and trust me, it is real. I just never really believed in it because I am a firm believer that anyone can be friends. No matter what they like, don’t like, etc. I can’t recall a time in high school where I felt like an outsider. I know many people do, but in high school that was luckily one of the few bullets I dodged.
I never ever imagined myself coming to college and experiencing this first hand. I guess this is something that is life. I am in no way disappointed in who I am friends with because I would like to think I have a lot of friends and my true, closest friends are better than anything I could hope for, but there have been times where I felt like I wasn’t good enough for a certain group or person at this school and that actually makes me very angry. Not really agency at someone else, but angry at myself for even feeling that way for one second. I don’t get angry because I don’t like confrontation. It is stupid. Tonight as I lay in bed and yes, something on social media caught my eye, I couldn’t help but stop and pray.
I know we all have our friend groups and I know we all have people we would do anything for because that is what best friends are, but if you for any reason think you are better than anyone else you are WRONG. I would encourage you to walk up to your mirror and take a good long look. Then I would like to remind you of one thing:
God made everyone equally. No one is better than the other. NO ONE. I don’t care if you are in the best sorority/fraternity, if you are an athlete, or how smart you are (or think you are). Everyone is in the same boat because we are all children of God. So next time you post on Instagram about how cool your click is, think about those out there that want to have a click. Those who you should remember to include every now and then. This world is full of millions of people so I encourage you to befriending as many of that million as you can.
I am sure you are thinking, “Oh Cade is jealous.” And that would be a tad accurate, but really I am just sad for the people who see things likes this and think “I wish I was as cool as them.” You probably don’t even realize it, but instead of making others feel like they aren’t good enough, we should be telling them that they are.
Those of you who feel like you don’t fit in or that you aren’t good enough, let me tell you a thing or to. From the God loving, social media obsessor, not athletic, not the smartest, not the hottest guy who would much rather stay in then go out and get drunk, you are good enough. No matter what you think, I can tell you that you are wrong. You are cool. You are smart. You are beautiful. You deserve to be loved.
Take it from someone that has spent way to much time wishing they were someone else or friends with someone else. I know, it’s hard, but God made you for a reason and he placed you where you are for a reason. Now get out of whatever you are hiding behind and be you. That is the best thing you can be. I struggle and will probably always struggle with wanting to be better. That comes naturally for you and I because we are humans. But what I am no longer going to struggle with is wanting to be someone I am not. God gave me a great life that I need to take advantage of. Join me in being thankful for this important notion of being you.
I am sorry because this came out of no where. I think it is something we all struggle with at some point, but I am quickly learning that wishing I was something or someone else isn’t going to be anything but at waste of time. I may not get invited to every social event. I mat not have a 4.0. I may not be in 1000 things. I may not have the best hair. I may not have abs. I may not get drunk. I may not get the most likes on insta. But guess what?
I am strong. I wear glasses. I rock colored pants. I only know how to tie a bowtie. I need sleep. I love cookies. I consider netlfix my friend. I have a southern accent. I have tremendous faith in God. I am thankful for days on end.
God loves us no matter who we hang out with, what we look like, or how many likes we get and tonight (along with everyday of my life) I am thankful for this.
I don’t rant much, but when I do I rant hard.
Thanks for listening. You may be the cool kid or you may be the kid who doesn’t know how cool they are. Either way I encourage you to take this into your daily routine… along with a little thanks.
Southern and Thankful