Background: My friendships are very important to me. I would HATE for one of my friends to think that I wasn’t a good friend. I pray for my friends. I invite my friends to do things. I try my hardest to keep up with my friends. I put a lot into my friendships because that’s the way I was raised and I learned how to be a good friend from my mother, who I have seen poor so much into her friendships. That is something that is very important to me. When I came to college that was something I was really worried about because I really wanted to form new strong friendships.
Fast forward a bit and you see/know that I have made some great friends and I am so thankful for that. Sometimes in high school I was the one that always had to do the instigating and with some friends I was doing all the work in the friendship and for someone like me who puts so much into my friendships that was at times upsetting. I did not come to college to deal with that type of thing again. I know and understand that some people just don’t know how to be friends, but I have no sympathy for that.
To have a friend you have to be a friend.
Let’s take a moment to let that really sink in. If you have seen this from my side of the friendship then you know how hard that is. If you are seeing this from the other side then you really need to take a minute and think about how you can be a better friend. A friendship should be equal. A friendship should be fun. A friendship should be full of thanks for each other. There is literally no excuse. Some people need that love and support from friends and some people need good friends. Finding friendships will never really end, but what you should remember about friendships is that a true friendship is built on all you put into it. I have found great friends, but yesterday I realized that our most important friendship should be with the big man upstairs.
You have to be a good friend to God too. Just like with a friend, you have to meet him hallway also. He cannot do all the work. Maybe you are struggling with friendships, or maybe you are struggling with your friendship with God. It doesn’t matter who, what matters is that you take time, especially during the holiday season, to poor into your relationships and friendships. If you are not putting your all into friendships or if you are hurt by the way a friendship is, fix it. Tell your friends you love them. Tell them you are sorry. Tell them you need and value there friendship. Tell them you are thankful for them. Tell God you are thankful for him!
I am learning and yesterday I was reminded that God puts people in our life for a reason. Some are friends. Some are lessons. Some are both! God is my best friend and I have faith in him because he is in charge of lots of things, even the friendships in my life! Be a good friend and be thankful to have good friends. One day you may not have that chance!
Southern and Thankful